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Lori Harvey doesn’t need Alexa to play anything by Future. She has control and intentions.
During a sit-down conversation with Teyana Taylor on Bumble’s Luv 2 See It segment, the two got candid about relationships.
What probably interested viewers and fans is that Ms. Harvey actually does talk. Also, curiosity about her split with Michael B. Jordan may be a mystery, but her business.
The girl chat included Taylor asking, [What’s] one thing you know now that you wish you knew sooner?
Harvey alluded to Jordan and replied,
“I think I even learned to become a better communicator in this relationship. Like, I think I actually learned that about myself. I actually was a horrible communicator.”
Taylor echoed her friend’s admittance saying,
“You think ?! You didn’t know? I was the original who taught you about your f***king communication.”
The 25-year-old businesswoman laughed and replied,
“Okay. Okay. Well, I just didn’t realize it was that bad. But I learned. I’ve been working on it, though. I’ve gotten significantly better. Okay. Significant.”
She further clarified her statement while showing awareness of one of her relationship flaws,
“I don’t even think that it’s anything that I wish I knew then. That I know now. I knew. I probably knew then.”
Harvey went on to say that the 21-year-old version of herself had specific wants and needs are not as prioritized as before,
“I feel like that’s the beautiful part of growth. Yes. What I wanted at 21, I don’t want at 25.
She added,
But at 21, I can’t really speak to where she comes from. I don’t even know her anymore. I don’t know who she is. What does she do?”
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She also touched on a red flag for her in relationships. Harvey explained that she wasn’t comfortable if her partner and their ex still carried on a close relationship.
When asked in detail about her red flag, the model said,
“I would say if you’re too close to your exes. I don’t want you to have beef yet.”
Rumors circulated that Jordan, 35, was ready for a more long-term relationship and that he “finally found what love was” in December 2021, per The Hollywood Reporter.
In September of the same year, Harvey appeared on The Real and said,
“I really do believe in the statement when they say, ‘When you know you know.’ And I think that really applies to our situation and we just have a really good time together.”
Dating Someone Older? It’s okay to establish pros and cons.
Jordan was born in 1987 while Harvey’s birth came in 1997. The ten-year age gap may be problematic to some when it comes to intimacy and control. For others, there are some good benefits.
According to Elite Singles, the perks of dating older men are:
- Stability and Long-Term Commitment
- Vibrance and Vitality in the relationship are based on the forthcoming actions of the younger partner
- A higher value of sustainability
- Enhanced communication and maturity through conversation
As great as that sounds, one advisory is to watch out for control. Younger partners will have already established routine ways adaptable for their growing independence. An older partner may become “set” with limited flexibility for one’s change.
How Romantic Companions Can Enhance Men’s Interest in Vulnerability and Change
Armon Perry, a professor of Social Work at the University of Louisville in Kentucky, conducted a study of 33 men. Each participant ranged from age 18 to 72 and resident of the Louisville area. Some identified as single, involved, divorced, remarried, and married.
Their education was diverse from graduate plus degrees to others with GEDs and high school diplomas. Each of the men had a unique take on what marriage looked like for them based on their formative years and experience.
One married man described why he chose his wife saying,
“She wasn’t phony. She was comfortable being herself, she wasn’t trying to impress anybody. So it made me learn to be comfortable being myself.”
Another added,
“I always tell her that I couldn’t have become who I am without her. Meeting the right person, to stand with the right person is probably the most important decision I’ve made in my life.”
However, society has conditioned many to still hold a notion that Black men are not to be trusted in relationships. Those perceptions are often clouded with infidelity, secrecy, and other immoral misgivings that are not and will never be applicable to all men, or women for that matter.
To put it nicely, not every person will step out of a relationship when the security is there. Moreover, there are those who struggle with monogamy and don’t choose to embrace the discipline coupledom adopts.
“The media portrays us as shiftless and violent and not to be trusted. I think when you see a man with a woman treating her well, a man with his children treating them the way they should be treated, it dispels a lot of what folks see in the media. Just seeing positive men doing what men should do is a good thing,” said one participant.
Either way, dating will never have “set rules.” Our experience helps to dictate our tolerance over time with different people. Harvey admitted she knew she wasn’t the best communicator. So, what relationship flaw are you still working to overcome?
